for tending to your anxiously-styled parts:
Take your piece, place, and peace…and run!
But first, show up a little bit late!
Flip your hair a little flagrantly!
Get all that you need in one fell swoop!
Selfishly!
Make no friends!
Be distant and discreet!
Hide in the bathroom on the breaks!
Say “thanks everybody!” in the middle of running out with your shoes barely on your feet!
for tending to your avoidantly-styled parts:
Show up early!
Ask if you can help move the furniture!
Maybe a little myofascial release for the host and facilitator, even!
Whatever serves everybody!
Hope to represent everyone’s very mean and bad mom and dad…an unresourced ancestor even!
At break time, make everyone a cup of mint-infused tea and make sure they get a couple cookies each!
Say “I’m just happy to be here with you people, not here for anything in particular, really!”
Practice completing courageously in front of everyone by repping the dead again and again.
Coordinate the Avoidant Collective’s giving flowers to failure praxis!
Ask who wants to go to dinner after and say that you’ll coordinate the appetizers, with pleasure!