At some point, we must realize an inner authority.
A source of ballast. A custodian of what matters. A protector of life force. A part of ourselves that believes we are worth caring for and cherishing.
Welcome to the Mattie Daddy Protocol.
Mattie Daddy watches themself throw a fit and in their silent power, allows most all of it.
But when enough is enough, Mattie Daddy says, “Ma basta!”
Mattie Daddy pays the bills before buying another tarot deck.
Mattie Daddy drinks water before coffee. Usually.
Mattie Daddy sends the email, makes the doctor's appointment, and fills the gas tank.
Mattie Daddy loves to collaborate!
Mattie Daddy understands that freedom is doing what needs doing to leave more room for wanting.
Mattie Daddy knows the difference. Mattie Daddy says:
"Yes, you may take a bath."
“No, you need not emerge enlightened.”
"Yes, that text was annoying."
"No, we are not discussing it for the next three days."
"Yes, you may rest."
"No, doomscrolling is not rest."
"Yes, you may have a spiritual awakening."
"No, you may not turn it into a business by Tuesday."
"Yes, you may feel disappointed or rejected."
"No, this is not something to identify with.”
"Yes, you may love them."
"No, you may not rescue them."
"Yes, you may dream."
"No, you may not neglect your earthly responsibilities."
"Yes, you may write about freedom."
"Yes, you still need to get an oil change."
Mattie Daddy is not harsh.
Mattie Daddy is not a productivity cult leader.
Mattie Daddy understands that structure and fluidity are partnered.
Mattie Daddy respects the need for softening and the need for fortifying.
Mattie Daddy doesn't demand perfection.
Mattie Daddy asks:
Did you eat?
Did you sleep?
Did you move your body?
Did you tell the truth?
Did you send the thing?
Excellent.
Now go smell the roses for twenty minutes. You’re worth it!
The deepest authority is not domination.
It is service and devotion.
It is saying:
"I've got you."
And then proving it.
Continually.
What’s the name of your inner Daddy? Your management. Your steward. Your ground control. Your benevolent liege?
Who’s in charge of your beautiful and chaotic operation?
Now goodnight, Mattie Daddy says it's bedtime.